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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This was part of a work I started for a workshop in Tuscon I helped lead with Karen.  This is slightly different than what I&#8217;ve written about in the past, but related enough!  This is also on the <a target="_blank" href="http://www.channelingwiki.com/index.php?title=Imbalances_in_Centers" >channeling wiki</a> site as well as <a target="_blank" href="http://light-spring.com" >Karen&#8217;s professional channeling site</a>.</p>
<h2>Centers and Balancing Them</h2>
<p>Centers are a concept that is intuitively known to everyone, though not necessarily by that name.  We know almost immediately when interacting with someone: Is this person a &#8220;head&#8221; person?  Or are they a &#8220;heart&#8221; person?  Or a &#8220;body-centric&#8221; person.   This is the same as being Intellectually Centered, Emotionally centered, or Moving centered, respectively.</p>
<p><br id="n42c3" /> Expanding this, centers essentially little energetic â€œcomputersâ€ in which the experiences we live are filtered, processed, and delivered to our consciousness.  There are 7 centers in all, although there are mainly three most people consciously interact with on a regular basis.   These three are essentially summed up as &#8220;heart, mind, and body&#8221;.  In the Michael system, these correspond to the emotional, intellectual, and moving centers.  The Gurdjieff system<span id="n42c4">  </span>- and many other systems, such as NLP &#8211; also have analogous concepts.</p>
<p id="g0m10">  This article will mostly deal with these 3 most commonly used centers and partly with the Instinctive center.<span id="g0m12">  </span> The instinctive center, loosely speaking, is the center that supports all the other centers by keeping the body alive via instinct and keeping records of experiences.   The remaining 3 centers â€“  Higher Intellectual, Higher Emotional, and Higher Moving centers â€“ are explained elsewhere.<span id="g0m13">  </span>However, balancing the 3 â€œlowerâ€ centers is an effective tool to enable you to access the higher centers.</p>
<p id="g0m18">  One interpretation of why they are called â€œcentersâ€ is that we tend to â€œcenterâ€ our consciousness in one of them.<span id="g0m110">  </span>Thus an â€œintellectually centered personâ€ will interpret <em id="g0m111">all experiences </em>through this perceptual lens.<span id="g0m112">  </span>Emotions could be categorized, labeled, psychoanalyzed, and even considered â€œnot validâ€ unless the reasons for them are understood.<span id="g0m113">  </span>A moving-centered person would listen to what the body says, store information in the body, and listen to the intuitive wisdom of the body more than others.<span id="g0m114"><br id="q_wm0" />  </span></p>
<p id="g0m116">  The concept of centering applies both to the individual as well as to a family, a group, a community, a nation, or a world.<span id="g0m118">  </span>The western world is very much intellectually centered, though there are pockets which have other centering.<span id="g0m119">  </span>In general, the order of preference of the 3 main centers are:</p>
<ol style="margin-top: 0in" id="g0m123" start="1" type="1">
<li class="Verdana" id="g0m124"> Intellectual center:<span id="g0m125">  </span>Almost all high paying corporate jobs are primarily based here.</li>
<li class="Verdana" id="g0m126"> Moving center:<span id="g0m127">  </span>Some athletes are rewarded, and this center is needed to â€œget things doneâ€.</li>
<li class="Verdana" id="g0m128"> Emotional center:<span id="g0m129">  </span>Emotions are recognized, but are often seen as something to â€œdeal withâ€ rather than use with intelligence, as a form of perception or to enrich one&#8217;s life.</li>
</ol>
<p>Centers are related to chakras, but are not identical.  Chakras are <em id="g0m132">gateways</em> of energy, allowing energetic movement and interaction between the &#8220;outside world&#8221; and your own experience.  A chakra is not where you process this energy, but is the conduit of that energy from within to without and back.<span id="g0m133">  </span><font id="fb9k2" size="3"><font id="m_lw2" size="2">There is thus a high level of interaction between centers and their appropriate chakra</font>.</font></p>
<h2 id="rpc2"> Imbalance in Centers</h2>
<p id="j2500"> As mentioned, most people have a â€œfavorite centerâ€.<span id="j2502">  </span>This is usually where they spend the greatest amount of time â€“ perhaps all of their time &#8211; operating from.<span id="j2503">  </span>There is nothing wrong with this, as no center is in any way â€œbetterâ€ than any other.<span id="j2504">  </span>Each center has its own unique strengths.<span id="j2505">  </span>At the same time, when one center is relied on to solve everything â€“ including areas which are not its specialty â€“ imbalances occur.<span id="j2506">   </span>This might be equivalent to using a screwdriver when a wrench is the easiest tool.<span id="j2507">   </span>A common scenario might be an intellectually centered person in a relationship fight who insists on being â€œrationalâ€ while denying all emotions, intuitions, and warmth at that moment.<span id="j2508"><br id="j2509" />  </span></p>
<p id="j25015">  These imbalances affect health in the body as well.<span id="j25017">  </span>When there is imbalance or blockage, the flow of energy meridians in the body will be affected.<span id="j25018">  </span>There may be a concentration of energy in one area, leading to problems in that area or surrounding ones.<span id="j25019">  </span>Much of Traditional Chinese Medicine and acupuncture comes from thousands of years of observing the flow of chi, or energy, in the body, and noting where the most natural flow is in the body.<span id="j25020">  </span>When energy gets re-routed in areas the body was not designed to handle it, over time illness can occur.<span id="j25021">  </span>This is analogous to what an imbalance of centers is.</p>
<p id="j25026">  Beyond health issues, being imbalanced â€“ and this is the most important aspect &#8211; will restrict the perception of what <em id="j25028">choices are available</em>.<span id="j25029">  </span>If you are imbalanced towards one center, you will only see possibilities based in that center, even if they are inappropriate ones.<span id="j25030">  </span>The imbalance creates a buildup of energy that can fixate into patterns of behavior that may not always be appropriate.<span id="j25031">  </span>Thus in the example of the person insisting on being â€œrationalâ€ above, there is usually no awareness that there is another way to be.<span id="j25032">  </span>The consciousness is seated entirely in one center and has no easy routes to other centers, and so only sees the options from that place.</p>
<p id="j25034">  When it comes to centers, the whole is more than the sum of its parts.<span id="j25036">  </span>This means that if you have all of intellectual intelligence, emotional intelligence, and body/world intelligence, you will be a much more powerful force to the world than three people manifesting each of these.<span id="j25037">  </span>Adding the awareness of the other 4 centers is more powerful still.<span id="j25038">  </span>Balancing the centers enables a much more regular and clear access to the higher centers, which are the source of epiphanies and ecstatic religious experiences.</p>
<h3><font id="rzbl" size="4">Connections between Centers</font></h3>
<p><br id="eq_8" /> The centers communicate amongst themselves.  Because each center has their own intelligence, each benefit from the very different intelligence of the others.  When used in co-ordination, there is immense power and wisdom that can be tapped by person.  The emotions may inform the brain of their own wisdom, which then makes a more wider scope decision than it could have otherwise if it denied any emotional factors.<br id="q8yy" /> <br id="ktbk" /> Most people have only certain pathways in the connections between centers open to them.  To give an example, one person may be intellectually centered and base his consciousness there.  He may not be open mentally to listening emotional sensitivities, and thus it is generally only the intellect that affects emotions, and not vice versa.  There may be a good two-way connection between the body and the brain (but not the body and emotions).  There may also be a strong emotional memory of certain pain in the past from the instinctive center, but thoughts of these events are unwanted and blocked.  This may result in a connection flow such as this:<br id="obu4" /> <img id="cg8a" /></p>
<p style="padding: 1em 0pt; text-align: center" id="beba"> <img src="http://www.channelingwiki.com/images/b/b7/CenteringExample.JPG" /></p>
<p align="left"> This is of course a simplified diagram of the connection in this example (your habitual connections may differ), but it is helpful to illustrate that connections exist and can be blocked. <br id="c.-u0" /> <br id="on771" /> The goal of <font style="font-style: italic" id="bb4v0">balancing the centers</font>, or being a balanced human being, is to ensure there is a good two-way connection between all the centers in the body.  Each center listens and speaks to every other center, and each center performs its natural function while allowing others to perform in their own strengths.  There is a perfect complimentary nature to all the centers, each helping the others in its own way.  The idea of a &#8216;balanced man&#8217; in Gurdjieff is based on this.<br id="dcpi0" /></p>
<h2><font id="sblu1" size="4"><span id="sblu2"><strong id="fb9k3">Parts of Centers</strong></span></font></h2>
<h2><font id="sblu1" size="4"><span id="sblu2"></span></font></h2>
<p id="zku91">  Nothing is an island in itself, and this includes centers as well.  There are thoughts that have much emotional energy, and emotions that are close to being a thought.  In this framework, this is because each center can be thought of as being itself a spectrum of all the centers, or a spectrum of 7 parts.  (Again, we will focus only on the 3 &#8220;lower&#8221; centers here)  Thus within the moving center, there exists a spectrum that covers the energy of all the centers in your body, but with a moving-centered foundation laid under it.  So the <span id="llxp0"><em id="fb9k4">emotional part </em></span>of the moving center would deal with body-centered states and motions that have a definite emotional expression or focus.<br id="i-770" /></p>
<p id="zku91">  The Michael Channel Shepherd Hoodwin has written the following about centers, introducing the part of a center:</p>
<p id="zku91">  <br id="sblu4" /></p>
<p style="margin-left: 0.5in" id="zku93"> <strong id="zku94"> Every center has seven parts of centers, which is a sort of doorway into the other centers. The parts of centers have the same names as the centers themselves. So there is an intellectual center, and an intellectual part of every center. Also, your part of center is like your secondary centering.</strong></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku911"> <br id="zku912" /></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku911"> The part of a center is both within the original center as well as part of a connection with the matching center.<span id="zku913">  </span>Thus, as shown in the diagram, the Intellectual part of the Moving Center naturally connects with the Moving Part of the Intellectual Center.</p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku920" align="center"><img src="http://www.channelingwiki.com/images/9/95/MovingIntellectualCenterMix.png" /></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku924"> If you could imagine each of the centers in the body, the various parts, and the interconnecting energies, you would get a picture of immeasurable beauty, a complete system that is in effect a miniature reproduction of the energies of the 7 planes of existence.<span id="zku925">  </span>When someone has all the centers connected to each other, there tends to be a great feeling of peaceful completeness.<span id="zku926">  </span>All is well.</p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku927"> <br id="zku928" />  Each part of each center has their function.<span id="zku929">  </span>Here is a table of some manifestations of the parts of the 3 more common centers a person might have.<span id="zku930">  </span>It is by no means a comprehensive list.</p>
<table border="1" cellpadding="1" cellspacing="1" width="507">
<tr>
<td><strong>Part of center</strong></td>
<td><strong>Manifestation</strong></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Intellectual center, intellectual part</td>
<td>Pure thought, abstract theory. Thought for the sake of thought.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Intellectual center, moving part</td>
<td>Planning events and what to do.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Intellectual center, emotional part</td>
<td>Poetry, thought and words with a weight of emotion attached. Psychotherapy.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Emotional center, intellectual part</td>
<td>Awareness of emotions, where they come from, and what they mean.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Emotional center, moving part</td>
<td>Movement of the body as expressing emotions.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Emotional center, emotional part</td>
<td>Pure emotion; crying, joy, perceptual feelings and some energetic sensitivity. Emotions for the sake of emotions.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Moving center, intellectual part</td>
<td>Thoughtful actions, finishing projects, tai chi, movement meditations. Movement with awareness.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Moving center, moving part</td>
<td>Running, pure dance, movement for the sake of movement.</td>
</tr>
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<td>Moving center, emotional part</td>
<td>Emotive expression of the body. Dance, physical theatre, embodying emotions. Catlike movement.</td>
</tr>
</table>
<p>When centers are discovered in someone or are channeled about them, what is usually given is the main center and the part of that center that is usually inhabited.<span id="mz3h">  In the example above, </span>one&#8217;s consciousness can be fixated in the moving part of the emotional center.<span id="wea6">  </span>This is still the intellectual center, but is an aspect of thought that is focused on getting things done: thoughts about action.<span id="muu1"> <br id="yu4i0" />  </span></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku994"> <span id="muu1"></span></p>
<h3 class="Verdana" id="zku994"> <font id="l3vg0" size="4">The part becomes the trap</font><br id="gc980" /></h3>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku9109"> Returning to the connections between the centers, as mentioned earlier, most people have only a smaller number of connections active.<span id="zku999">  </span>When someoneâ€™s awareness is based in the Intellectual part of the Moving Center, this does not necessarily mean their connection to the Intellectual Center is well established.<span id="zku9106">  </span>Often this connection is blocked to some degree, which means that there is some blocked energy, and the â€œpartâ€ becomes the â€œtrapâ€.  It is a â€œtrapâ€ because the majority of a person&#8217;s focus is spend locked in that part of the center, with significant inflexibility in accessing the wisdom of other centers.<br />
<br id="zku9110" />  For an example, say you were trapped in the Moving part of Intellectual center.<span id="zku9111">   </span>In this trap, the energy that comes from a thought about putting something in the world would not move into action, nor come out as emotions that might inspire you further.<span id="zku9112">  </span>You might think over and over thoughts about a plan of action, potential problems, analysis of other people involved and so on, but not do anything towards the plan.<span id="zku9113">   </span>The impulse stays in the intellectual center, without using the balancing and completing energy of the moving and emotional centers.<span id="zku9114">  </span>The trap tends to be a downward spiral, no matter what center it is based in.  In this case, there might be a recognition of procrastination going on, in which case <em id="zku9115">even more</em> thoughts about doing something about it would form.<span id="zku9116">  </span>Rather than solve the blockage in flow between the centers, this places even more energy in the already over-utilized centers.<span id="zku9117">  </span>Those in a trap will have thoughts that things arenâ€™t working because theyâ€™re <em id="zku9118">not trying hard enough</em>.<span id="zku9119">  </span>There is thus more energy spend in doing the same thing with the same method, thinking things will be different.</p>
<p>Another example might be being trapped in the Moving part of Emotional center.  This trap could appear in a number of ways, from always having a &#8220;jittery&#8221; feeling, to being very reactive to emotional events.  In essence, there is an immediate emotional reaction to events, and then there is a reaction in the body (inwardly or outwardly) that keeps one in an emotional state.  Any action that appears tends to be a frustrative reaction rather than a productive choice, and will have a strong emotional flavor.  The full power of the Moving center has not been engaged and it is hard to step back and think in a detached manner about choices when a strong emotion is present.  The trap is most noticeable when the reactions to emotions perpetually create even more emotions, leading to a life filled with emotional drama.  <br id="wteh0" /> <br id="wteh1" /> It is important to see that no trap is &#8220;better&#8221; than any other.  They are all limitations: of perceptions, of resources, of choice.  Society might have a preference that says it&#8217;s better to be stuck in the intellect, but aside from societal preferences there is no &#8216;better&#8217; trap.  Some will be more internal than external and are not as obvious to others who are not closely connected.  The only issue is that of being whole; living more completely in <em id="hlav0">who you are.</em><br id="q..f" /></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="rns-">&nbsp;</p>
<p>This ends Part 1.  <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2008/04/28/balancing-the-centers-of-your-body-part-2/" >Part 2</a> involves techniques for balancing the centers.Â Â  If you like this, <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2008/04/28/balancing-the-centers-of-your-body-part-2/" >read the next in the series!</a></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><o></o>You may have noticed that amidst the bustle of the holiday season, itâ€™s easy to forget the turning of the seasons.<span>  </span>Beyond gift giving and family, we have a fundamental connection as living being to this earth, and its movements move us.<span>  </span>The wintry season with long nights, hibernation and repose, offer us time to reflect, re-evaluate, and release.<span>  </span>Without dark nights, we would not awaken to a day that is new and transformed from those in the past.<span>  </span>Letting go is emphasized by nature in this season, and listening to the nourisher of life on this planet provides deep nourishment in itself.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Many think of letting go as either a psychological process or a sacrifice.<span>  </span>Weâ€™re often told to â€œlet goâ€ of struggles and desires after things donâ€™t work out.<span>  </span>Buddhist teachings can advocate us to â€œlet goâ€ of attachments.<span>  </span>Though this is in essence a very positive thing, in many Iâ€™ve tried to help these thoughts can lead to a subtle force of conformity directed at the Self.<span>  </span>There is a sense that one should <em>change</em> in order to let go. <span> </span>One should conform to <em>the image</em> of non-attachment.<span>  </span>However, this creates a backlash: any kind of desire to change oneâ€™s self causes resistance in response.<span>  </span>This was part of the true teaching of Siddhartha Gautama, which has been left to us as â€œdesire causes sufferingâ€.</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">Instead of thinking of letting this way, look at it in a new light: <em>as surrender</em>. That is, as the release of all expectations and desires to control the experiences in life. <span> </span>In letting go, there is a complete surrender and trust to the expansive magnitude of the present moment. This is a space which can be called &#8220;The Void&#8221;, <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2007/11/11/the-void/" >as described in a previous post</a>. <span> </span>Because of the absence of expectations and control, there is an expanse of pure <em>openness</em> present.<span>  </span>This is like the darkness before the dawn; anything can come from that space.<span>  </span>It is a supply of pure potential, of mythology and dreams and abandon all at once. <span> </span>The birth of the universe is literally there when there is no attempt at control, and new directions in life can appear in a moment&#8217;s notice.<span>  </span>These are the benefits of â€œdark nights of the soulâ€.<br />
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in">In my own life, this has been a great season for letting go. <span> </span>I got let go from my job, I&#8217;m having a serious illness where I can&#8217;t walk without stumbling and get disoriented easily from walking a few hundred feet. <span> </span>Long seated emotions from abuse in childhood have been coming up along with all the emotions attached to them &#8211; volumes of sadness, rage, and self-hatred. Even though these changes have limited me in so many ways<span>  </span>â€“ my career, health, and emotional well being â€“ there is not a helpless feeling surrounding them.<span>  </span>In a strange way, surrender is extremely empowering.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"> Surrendering completely to an experience is something that requires great trust.<span>  </span>For instance, say I am having doubts as to myself being a â€œgood personâ€ because of childhood abuse.<span>  </span>I have angry, shameful, and painful feelings towards myself and others, and the thoughts arising from this feeling-world are in conflict : some believe these feelings and support them, while others donâ€™t and say that these conclusions are wrong. <span> </span>The thoughts are at war.<span>  </span><span> </span>I may create affirmations for myself surrounding my own worth, but these merely support one side in this war. <span> </span>Even if that side wins, it will only be a temporary victory; no one can ever destroy any part of themselves, only suppress it for a time. <span> </span>Surrender goes beyond sides; it goes beyond duality.<span>  </span>It is seeing the oneness of both â€œsidesâ€, and inviting this into a daily experience.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">True surrender involves letting go of all preconceived notions.<span>  </span>This means that to surrender to the experience of self-doubt, anger and shame, one must let go of any thoughts that joy is better â€“ <em>or even that joy exists</em>.<span>  </span>For that one terrifying moment of true surrender, there is nothing else other than the experience in front of you.<span>  </span>If it is pain, there is nothing but pain.<span>  </span>If there are attacking thoughts, there is nothing but them.<span>  </span>There is an openness to concluding that Iâ€™m â€œbadâ€ if thatâ€™s what I see.<span>   </span>All of this arises from an immense soul-driven commitment to know the truth about Self, <em>no matter what</em>.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in"><em>It is the desire for Truth above all else that drives us to know Love.<o></o></em></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">The paradox of surrender is that the more you surrender to uncomfortable experiences, the more you will rest in joy.<span>  </span>This is not truly a paradox, but merely an expression of <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2007/10/17/joy-at-all-times/" >what joy is, as also described previously</a>.<span>   </span><em>Joy is your natural state; a state of not resisting</em>.<span>   </span>Whenever there is no resistance, <em>no matter what is the experience</em>, there will be a quality of joy.</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">This also relates to what <em>knowing</em> is.<span>  </span>Within the experience of surrender, which is to say within the experience of <em>not knowing</em>, is a deep knowledge.<span>  </span>This is beyond the knowledge of things, of labels, of science and form.<span>  </span>This is the knowledge of experience, of seeing how the flow of life moves within you.<span>  </span>It is this knowledge that forever ingrains a fundamental trust in the universe, and it is this trust which dispels fear.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Put more succinctly:</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><em>Only those who are certain of nothing can ever truly Know.</em></strong><o></o></p>
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		<title>Trusting Perceptions and Higher Communication</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[One of the most fundamental aspect of any growth or spiritual path is the trust in your own perception.  There is no question it is incomplete; so long as you have a body, you will not see even a miniscule fraction of the totality and even your Self.  But it is still your perception.  It is the basis for growth, for if you rely on someone elseâ€™s eyes, you are not living your own life, discovering your own Truth, but are being a guinea pig for otherâ€™s experiments with Truth. ]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt">One of the most fundamental aspect of any growth or spiritual path is the trust in one&#8217;s own perception.  There is no question it is an incomplete perception; so long as you have a body, you will not see even a minuscule fraction of the totality of the universe, or that of your Self.<span>  </span>But it is still <em>your perception</em>.  It is your link to your soul.<span>  </span>It is the basis for all growth, for if you rely on someone elseâ€™s eyes and intuition, you are not living your own life, discovering your own Truth, but are being a guinea pig for otherâ€™s experiments with Truth.<span>  </span>As <a target="_blank" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jiddu_Krishnamurti" >J. Krishnamurti</a> said,</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 12pt 0.5in">&#8220;All authority of any kind, especially in the field of thought and understanding, is the most destructive, evil thing. Leaders destroy the followers and followers destroy the leaders. You have to be your own teacher and your own disciple. You have to question everything that man has accepted as valuable, as necessary.&#8221;</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt">Living and speaking from your own perception can be very challenging.<span>  </span>At the same time, it is also compassionate.<span>  </span>One of my teachers, the channeled entity Michael,<a target="_blank" href="http://www.michaelteachings.com/support_circle_troy.html" > described someone supporting by compassion as</a> :  &#8220;This person can be counted on to tell you the truth about you in any situation.&#8221;.   Being someone who speaks their perceptions fully can cause worldly problems if used indiscriminately, but within the context of close relationships generates trust and love.<span>  </span>When someone is being <em>exactly who they are</em>, Love exists.<span>  </span><a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2007/11/06/that-childlike-state-and-love/" >Love is</a>.<span>  </span>Living and speaking your perceptions is another way of being who you are.  Being who you are brings awareness to the Truth that <em>you are nothing but Love.</em><o></o></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt">Unfortunately, even in progressive groups, there can easily be an environment where only â€œpositive perceptionsâ€ are shared.<span>  </span>This can be a definite improvement over a environment of venting and flaming at each other, but it still is not the full truth of who we are. <span> </span>Paradoxically, if everyone is restricted in what they can say, then over time people don&#8217;t feel supported and safety issues can come up strongly.   When it&#8217;s considered <em>not compassionate to speak true perceptions</em> then a very strange dynamic occurs and dysfunction starts.  Compassion will always start from truth.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt">However, simply announcing this intention this does not mean it will happen.  If there is no openness to intimacy, then bare honesty may provoke strong defenses; awareness of this is compassionate in itself.  It is good to ask <em>what is necessary</em> to create relationships, an environment, or even <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2007/10/21/podcast-1-community/" >a deeper level of community</a> (see previous post) where true perceptions can be displayed openly.<span>  </span>I call this â€œHigher Communicationâ€.<span>  </span>This is where the interrelationships are about sharing who you are, completely and in complete wholeness.<span>  </span>I hope insight into these helps bring true communication in this holiday season.<span>  </span>Each of these are needed by all parties involved in the interaction:<br />
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<li class="MsoNormal"><em>Self awareness</em>:<span>  </span>Being conscious      enough to know feelings and dynamics as they are happening.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><em>Expressive ability</em>: <span> </span>Enough      interconnection exists between the emotional and intellectual centers of      the body that all of the issues involved can be communicated in words or      via other forms of expression.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><em>Translation ability</em>.<span>       </span>This is an added level of expressive ability.<span>  </span>As we know from NLP and other systems,      people interpret and communicate their world in different ways.<span>  </span>The ability to bridge communication      distances by flexibility of words or modalities helps greatly when      connecting.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><em>A dynamic of equality</em>, where there are no power plays going      on.  Social positions and roles are dropped.  Within a dynamic      of power plays, there is a struggle to hold to a position of power, which      I call a &#8220;magnetic center&#8221; and deep communication usually gets      blocked in this struggle.<span>  </span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><em>Trust</em>.<span>  </span>This is an      extension of equality; the relationship has developed to the point that it      is unquestionably known that everyoneâ€™s wellbeing is linked.<span>  </span>You are on the same side. Your happiness is quite literally their happiness.  Any power dynamic immediately removes      this.</li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><em>Fears have been calmed</em>.  If someone is arrogant â€“ which      is the same thing as being influenced by a great fear of vulnerability â€“      then the openness of intimacy tends to be blocked whenever the fear has      not been calmed.<span>   </span>Similarly,      someone with a fear of change (e.g., stubbornness), will also tend to      stonewall if they feel pressured rather than head towards true      communication.  Other fears act similarly.  Note that <span></span>all fears are      nothing more than <em>blocks in      perception</em>.<span>  </span>And because      communication is an extension of perception, fears block communication and communion.</li>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in">Note that fears do not need to disappear.<span>  </span>They simply need to be calmed.<span>  </span>And more often than not, a gentle listening to is all that fears need in order to be calmed.<o></o></p>
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<li class="MsoNormal"><em>Love of Self.<span>  </span></em>Without a      connection to an unconditional acceptance of the larger Self, which      connects us to All That Is, there will be limitations on the interplay      between people.<span>  </span>You cannot      communicate intricacies about something you have contempt for â€“ you can      only denigrate it, which is to say offer reasons for <em>not looking at it</em>. <span> </span>With      Love of Self, all communication is tinged with it, and the depth of      interaction increases exponentially.<span>       </span>It is said that Buddhaâ€™s smile conveyed such detail about the      nature of the universe that this was enough for some monks to reach higher      understanding.<em><o></o></em></li>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt">When any of these are not present â€“ or when there is simply no listening &#8211; then of course it&#8217;s wise to let it be and not push for deeper communication.  Respect for otherâ€™s choices is in itself compassionate.   Love simply allows <em>what is</em>, and a true compassionate acceptance of blocks without resentment opens many doors in and of itself.</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt" align="center"><a href="http://www-users.cs.umn.edu/~shkim/Gallery/misc.html"  target="_blank"><img src="http://i193.photobucket.com/albums/z208/Carrotwax/Loving%20Awareness/Eng_Tay_Intimacy2.jpg" title="Intimacy" alt="Intimacy" height="320" width="330" /></a></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt">Rules in any group or community, such as &#8220;before judging, get it from the horses mouth&#8221; that do not incorporate an understanding of the processes above can easily be used as a subtle way of saying &#8220;do not trust your own perception&#8221;.  When there is a denial of perception going on, such as those of any blocks listed above, this is a subtle form of mindfuck.  I do not use that term lightly.  â€œMindfuckâ€ I would define as actions taken to cause distrust of oneâ€™s own perceptions, intuitive knowingness, and connection to Self. <span>  </span>This is our most valued treasure â€“ our selves.<span>  </span>This is why trusting oneâ€™s own perception is fundamental; without this, we disown our Self.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt">Any time you may hear a response like &#8220;don&#8217;t trust your perception, ask me&#8221; then power plays and fears are in operation.  There are no exceptions to this, and it is applicable to everyone, no matter how â€œwiseâ€.  <span> </span>Everyoneâ€™s perceptions are inclusive and build on each otherâ€™s; we only know a small part of ourselves, and others&#8217; perceptions add greatly to our own.   This is not saying asking others for verification isn&#8217;t a good thing; it is very important to get feedback to tune perceptions or reevaluate them.  This is the benefit of positive doubt; if there is a blind trust of oneâ€™s own intuition, then this can be used to wall oneâ€™s self in an ivory tower.  You can trust your own perceptions while having a vast space open to expand them through others&#8217;.<span>  </span>With Higher Communication, there is no conflict<em>; we are always enriched by the sharing of our selves with each other.<span>  Within higher communication, other&#8217;s perception is literally your own.  <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2007/04/07/on-intimacy/" >True intimacy appears (see previous post)</a>.   Oneness is experienced.  </span></em></p>
<p>Again, trusting your own perception is an absolutely fundamental cornerstone of all growth.  <em>You start from where you are now.</em><o></o></p>
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