I recently read Urban Monk’s post on forgiveness and it brought thoughts of my own, some of which I commented on there.
One of the disagreements I have with what some people write about forgiveness is the idea that it??s about letting go of hatred. ?Hatred, in that mindset, is an evil which must be expunged. ?To me, that??s a misguided idea of what hatred is.
Forgiveness is simply letting go. That??s it. ?No more than that. ? And by this, I don’t mean “getting rid of”. ?Letting go means a positive non-attachment. ? It beings being ok with things being there, but letting go of the need for anything to change. ?Being fine with the present moment – whatever it is. ? Hatred can still be there. Hatred is not incompatible.
When we think hatred has to go for forgiveness to exist, we pretend forgiveness.
If forgiveness has to look a certain way, of course we’re going to fake it. ?We want to look that way too. (more…)