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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This was part of a work I started for a workshop in Tuscon I helped lead with Karen.  This is slightly different than what I&#8217;ve written about in the past, but related enough!  This is also on the <a target="_blank" href="http://www.channelingwiki.com/index.php?title=Imbalances_in_Centers" >channeling wiki</a> site as well as <a target="_blank" href="http://light-spring.com" >Karen&#8217;s professional channeling site</a>.</p>
<h2>Centers and Balancing Them</h2>
<p>Centers are a concept that is intuitively known to everyone, though not necessarily by that name.  We know almost immediately when interacting with someone: Is this person a &#8220;head&#8221; person?  Or are they a &#8220;heart&#8221; person?  Or a &#8220;body-centric&#8221; person.   This is the same as being Intellectually Centered, Emotionally centered, or Moving centered, respectively.</p>
<p><br id="n42c3" /> Expanding this, centers essentially little energetic â€œcomputersâ€ in which the experiences we live are filtered, processed, and delivered to our consciousness.  There are 7 centers in all, although there are mainly three most people consciously interact with on a regular basis.   These three are essentially summed up as &#8220;heart, mind, and body&#8221;.  In the Michael system, these correspond to the emotional, intellectual, and moving centers.  The Gurdjieff system<span id="n42c4">  </span>- and many other systems, such as NLP &#8211; also have analogous concepts.</p>
<p id="g0m10">  This article will mostly deal with these 3 most commonly used centers and partly with the Instinctive center.<span id="g0m12">  </span> The instinctive center, loosely speaking, is the center that supports all the other centers by keeping the body alive via instinct and keeping records of experiences.   The remaining 3 centers â€“  Higher Intellectual, Higher Emotional, and Higher Moving centers â€“ are explained elsewhere.<span id="g0m13">  </span>However, balancing the 3 â€œlowerâ€ centers is an effective tool to enable you to access the higher centers.</p>
<p id="g0m18">  One interpretation of why they are called â€œcentersâ€ is that we tend to â€œcenterâ€ our consciousness in one of them.<span id="g0m110">  </span>Thus an â€œintellectually centered personâ€ will interpret <em id="g0m111">all experiences </em>through this perceptual lens.<span id="g0m112">  </span>Emotions could be categorized, labeled, psychoanalyzed, and even considered â€œnot validâ€ unless the reasons for them are understood.<span id="g0m113">  </span>A moving-centered person would listen to what the body says, store information in the body, and listen to the intuitive wisdom of the body more than others.<span id="g0m114"><br id="q_wm0" />  </span></p>
<p id="g0m116">  The concept of centering applies both to the individual as well as to a family, a group, a community, a nation, or a world.<span id="g0m118">  </span>The western world is very much intellectually centered, though there are pockets which have other centering.<span id="g0m119">  </span>In general, the order of preference of the 3 main centers are:</p>
<ol style="margin-top: 0in" id="g0m123" start="1" type="1">
<li class="Verdana" id="g0m124"> Intellectual center:<span id="g0m125">  </span>Almost all high paying corporate jobs are primarily based here.</li>
<li class="Verdana" id="g0m126"> Moving center:<span id="g0m127">  </span>Some athletes are rewarded, and this center is needed to â€œget things doneâ€.</li>
<li class="Verdana" id="g0m128"> Emotional center:<span id="g0m129">  </span>Emotions are recognized, but are often seen as something to â€œdeal withâ€ rather than use with intelligence, as a form of perception or to enrich one&#8217;s life.</li>
</ol>
<p>Centers are related to chakras, but are not identical.  Chakras are <em id="g0m132">gateways</em> of energy, allowing energetic movement and interaction between the &#8220;outside world&#8221; and your own experience.  A chakra is not where you process this energy, but is the conduit of that energy from within to without and back.<span id="g0m133">  </span><font id="fb9k2" size="3"><font id="m_lw2" size="2">There is thus a high level of interaction between centers and their appropriate chakra</font>.</font></p>
<h2 id="rpc2"> Imbalance in Centers</h2>
<p id="j2500"> As mentioned, most people have a â€œfavorite centerâ€.<span id="j2502">  </span>This is usually where they spend the greatest amount of time â€“ perhaps all of their time &#8211; operating from.<span id="j2503">  </span>There is nothing wrong with this, as no center is in any way â€œbetterâ€ than any other.<span id="j2504">  </span>Each center has its own unique strengths.<span id="j2505">  </span>At the same time, when one center is relied on to solve everything â€“ including areas which are not its specialty â€“ imbalances occur.<span id="j2506">   </span>This might be equivalent to using a screwdriver when a wrench is the easiest tool.<span id="j2507">   </span>A common scenario might be an intellectually centered person in a relationship fight who insists on being â€œrationalâ€ while denying all emotions, intuitions, and warmth at that moment.<span id="j2508"><br id="j2509" />  </span></p>
<p id="j25015">  These imbalances affect health in the body as well.<span id="j25017">  </span>When there is imbalance or blockage, the flow of energy meridians in the body will be affected.<span id="j25018">  </span>There may be a concentration of energy in one area, leading to problems in that area or surrounding ones.<span id="j25019">  </span>Much of Traditional Chinese Medicine and acupuncture comes from thousands of years of observing the flow of chi, or energy, in the body, and noting where the most natural flow is in the body.<span id="j25020">  </span>When energy gets re-routed in areas the body was not designed to handle it, over time illness can occur.<span id="j25021">  </span>This is analogous to what an imbalance of centers is.</p>
<p id="j25026">  Beyond health issues, being imbalanced â€“ and this is the most important aspect &#8211; will restrict the perception of what <em id="j25028">choices are available</em>.<span id="j25029">  </span>If you are imbalanced towards one center, you will only see possibilities based in that center, even if they are inappropriate ones.<span id="j25030">  </span>The imbalance creates a buildup of energy that can fixate into patterns of behavior that may not always be appropriate.<span id="j25031">  </span>Thus in the example of the person insisting on being â€œrationalâ€ above, there is usually no awareness that there is another way to be.<span id="j25032">  </span>The consciousness is seated entirely in one center and has no easy routes to other centers, and so only sees the options from that place.</p>
<p id="j25034">  When it comes to centers, the whole is more than the sum of its parts.<span id="j25036">  </span>This means that if you have all of intellectual intelligence, emotional intelligence, and body/world intelligence, you will be a much more powerful force to the world than three people manifesting each of these.<span id="j25037">  </span>Adding the awareness of the other 4 centers is more powerful still.<span id="j25038">  </span>Balancing the centers enables a much more regular and clear access to the higher centers, which are the source of epiphanies and ecstatic religious experiences.</p>
<h3><font id="rzbl" size="4">Connections between Centers</font></h3>
<p><br id="eq_8" /> The centers communicate amongst themselves.  Because each center has their own intelligence, each benefit from the very different intelligence of the others.  When used in co-ordination, there is immense power and wisdom that can be tapped by person.  The emotions may inform the brain of their own wisdom, which then makes a more wider scope decision than it could have otherwise if it denied any emotional factors.<br id="q8yy" /> <br id="ktbk" /> Most people have only certain pathways in the connections between centers open to them.  To give an example, one person may be intellectually centered and base his consciousness there.  He may not be open mentally to listening emotional sensitivities, and thus it is generally only the intellect that affects emotions, and not vice versa.  There may be a good two-way connection between the body and the brain (but not the body and emotions).  There may also be a strong emotional memory of certain pain in the past from the instinctive center, but thoughts of these events are unwanted and blocked.  This may result in a connection flow such as this:<br id="obu4" /> <img id="cg8a" /></p>
<p style="padding: 1em 0pt; text-align: center" id="beba"> <img src="http://www.channelingwiki.com/images/b/b7/CenteringExample.JPG" /></p>
<p align="left"> This is of course a simplified diagram of the connection in this example (your habitual connections may differ), but it is helpful to illustrate that connections exist and can be blocked. <br id="c.-u0" /> <br id="on771" /> The goal of <font style="font-style: italic" id="bb4v0">balancing the centers</font>, or being a balanced human being, is to ensure there is a good two-way connection between all the centers in the body.  Each center listens and speaks to every other center, and each center performs its natural function while allowing others to perform in their own strengths.  There is a perfect complimentary nature to all the centers, each helping the others in its own way.  The idea of a &#8216;balanced man&#8217; in Gurdjieff is based on this.<br id="dcpi0" /></p>
<h2><font id="sblu1" size="4"><span id="sblu2"><strong id="fb9k3">Parts of Centers</strong></span></font></h2>
<h2><font id="sblu1" size="4"><span id="sblu2"></span></font></h2>
<p id="zku91">  Nothing is an island in itself, and this includes centers as well.  There are thoughts that have much emotional energy, and emotions that are close to being a thought.  In this framework, this is because each center can be thought of as being itself a spectrum of all the centers, or a spectrum of 7 parts.  (Again, we will focus only on the 3 &#8220;lower&#8221; centers here)  Thus within the moving center, there exists a spectrum that covers the energy of all the centers in your body, but with a moving-centered foundation laid under it.  So the <span id="llxp0"><em id="fb9k4">emotional part </em></span>of the moving center would deal with body-centered states and motions that have a definite emotional expression or focus.<br id="i-770" /></p>
<p id="zku91">  The Michael Channel Shepherd Hoodwin has written the following about centers, introducing the part of a center:</p>
<p id="zku91">  <br id="sblu4" /></p>
<p style="margin-left: 0.5in" id="zku93"> <strong id="zku94"> Every center has seven parts of centers, which is a sort of doorway into the other centers. The parts of centers have the same names as the centers themselves. So there is an intellectual center, and an intellectual part of every center. Also, your part of center is like your secondary centering.</strong></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku911"> <br id="zku912" /></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku911"> The part of a center is both within the original center as well as part of a connection with the matching center.<span id="zku913">  </span>Thus, as shown in the diagram, the Intellectual part of the Moving Center naturally connects with the Moving Part of the Intellectual Center.</p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku920" align="center"><img src="http://www.channelingwiki.com/images/9/95/MovingIntellectualCenterMix.png" /></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku924"> If you could imagine each of the centers in the body, the various parts, and the interconnecting energies, you would get a picture of immeasurable beauty, a complete system that is in effect a miniature reproduction of the energies of the 7 planes of existence.<span id="zku925">  </span>When someone has all the centers connected to each other, there tends to be a great feeling of peaceful completeness.<span id="zku926">  </span>All is well.</p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku927"> <br id="zku928" />  Each part of each center has their function.<span id="zku929">  </span>Here is a table of some manifestations of the parts of the 3 more common centers a person might have.<span id="zku930">  </span>It is by no means a comprehensive list.</p>
<table border="1" cellpadding="1" cellspacing="1" width="507">
<tr>
<td><strong>Part of center</strong></td>
<td><strong>Manifestation</strong></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Intellectual center, intellectual part</td>
<td>Pure thought, abstract theory. Thought for the sake of thought.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Intellectual center, moving part</td>
<td>Planning events and what to do.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Intellectual center, emotional part</td>
<td>Poetry, thought and words with a weight of emotion attached. Psychotherapy.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Emotional center, intellectual part</td>
<td>Awareness of emotions, where they come from, and what they mean.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Emotional center, moving part</td>
<td>Movement of the body as expressing emotions.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Emotional center, emotional part</td>
<td>Pure emotion; crying, joy, perceptual feelings and some energetic sensitivity. Emotions for the sake of emotions.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Moving center, intellectual part</td>
<td>Thoughtful actions, finishing projects, tai chi, movement meditations. Movement with awareness.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Moving center, moving part</td>
<td>Running, pure dance, movement for the sake of movement.</td>
</tr>
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<td>Moving center, emotional part</td>
<td>Emotive expression of the body. Dance, physical theatre, embodying emotions. Catlike movement.</td>
</tr>
</table>
<p>When centers are discovered in someone or are channeled about them, what is usually given is the main center and the part of that center that is usually inhabited.<span id="mz3h">  In the example above, </span>one&#8217;s consciousness can be fixated in the moving part of the emotional center.<span id="wea6">  </span>This is still the intellectual center, but is an aspect of thought that is focused on getting things done: thoughts about action.<span id="muu1"> <br id="yu4i0" />  </span></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku994"> <span id="muu1"></span></p>
<h3 class="Verdana" id="zku994"> <font id="l3vg0" size="4">The part becomes the trap</font><br id="gc980" /></h3>
<p class="Verdana" id="zku9109"> Returning to the connections between the centers, as mentioned earlier, most people have only a smaller number of connections active.<span id="zku999">  </span>When someoneâ€™s awareness is based in the Intellectual part of the Moving Center, this does not necessarily mean their connection to the Intellectual Center is well established.<span id="zku9106">  </span>Often this connection is blocked to some degree, which means that there is some blocked energy, and the â€œpartâ€ becomes the â€œtrapâ€.  It is a â€œtrapâ€ because the majority of a person&#8217;s focus is spend locked in that part of the center, with significant inflexibility in accessing the wisdom of other centers.<br />
<br id="zku9110" />  For an example, say you were trapped in the Moving part of Intellectual center.<span id="zku9111">   </span>In this trap, the energy that comes from a thought about putting something in the world would not move into action, nor come out as emotions that might inspire you further.<span id="zku9112">  </span>You might think over and over thoughts about a plan of action, potential problems, analysis of other people involved and so on, but not do anything towards the plan.<span id="zku9113">   </span>The impulse stays in the intellectual center, without using the balancing and completing energy of the moving and emotional centers.<span id="zku9114">  </span>The trap tends to be a downward spiral, no matter what center it is based in.  In this case, there might be a recognition of procrastination going on, in which case <em id="zku9115">even more</em> thoughts about doing something about it would form.<span id="zku9116">  </span>Rather than solve the blockage in flow between the centers, this places even more energy in the already over-utilized centers.<span id="zku9117">  </span>Those in a trap will have thoughts that things arenâ€™t working because theyâ€™re <em id="zku9118">not trying hard enough</em>.<span id="zku9119">  </span>There is thus more energy spend in doing the same thing with the same method, thinking things will be different.</p>
<p>Another example might be being trapped in the Moving part of Emotional center.  This trap could appear in a number of ways, from always having a &#8220;jittery&#8221; feeling, to being very reactive to emotional events.  In essence, there is an immediate emotional reaction to events, and then there is a reaction in the body (inwardly or outwardly) that keeps one in an emotional state.  Any action that appears tends to be a frustrative reaction rather than a productive choice, and will have a strong emotional flavor.  The full power of the Moving center has not been engaged and it is hard to step back and think in a detached manner about choices when a strong emotion is present.  The trap is most noticeable when the reactions to emotions perpetually create even more emotions, leading to a life filled with emotional drama.  <br id="wteh0" /> <br id="wteh1" /> It is important to see that no trap is &#8220;better&#8221; than any other.  They are all limitations: of perceptions, of resources, of choice.  Society might have a preference that says it&#8217;s better to be stuck in the intellect, but aside from societal preferences there is no &#8216;better&#8217; trap.  Some will be more internal than external and are not as obvious to others who are not closely connected.  The only issue is that of being whole; living more completely in <em id="hlav0">who you are.</em><br id="q..f" /></p>
<p class="Verdana" id="rns-">&nbsp;</p>
<p>This ends Part 1.  <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2008/04/28/balancing-the-centers-of-your-body-part-2/" >Part 2</a> involves techniques for balancing the centers.Â Â  If you like this, <a href="http://www.loving-awareness.org/2008/04/28/balancing-the-centers-of-your-body-part-2/" >read the next in the series!</a></p>
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&#8220;You&#8217;re      either for me or against me&#8221;
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal">Recently it&#8217;s hit home just how pervasive black and white thinking is.Â It&#8217;s fairly intrinsic to the American culture, so attitudes like the following list can be accepted without a second thought, or reacted to instantly:<o:p></o:p></p>
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<li class="MsoNormal">&#8220;You&#8217;re      either for me or against me&#8221;<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal">&#8220;If      you saying someone is wonderful, that&#8217;s fine, but bringing up mistakes      made is blaming and should be stopped.&#8221;<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal">&#8220;I&#8217;m      through be controlled by my fear!Â I won&#8217;t listen to it any      more!<o:p></o:p></li>
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<p><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">The latter two are less obvious than the first one, so let&#8217;s look at them.Â In the bringing up of mistakes, there are an infinite number of ways this can be done.Â It can certainly done out of blaming and desire to punish.Â It can also be done out of a sincere desire to help others via gentle teaching, much like we naturally do with children.Â It can be done simply as a desire to bring people together, for walking on tiptoes around issues in order to be &#8220;positive&#8221; usually drives a group apart in time.Â It is sincerity and goodwill that brings people together, and there are myriad ways this can be expressed &#8211; sometimes in ways that may result initially in conflict.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">For the last example, there&#8217;s an assumption that fear is simply an enemy to overcome, all in one step.Â Of course, our fears are usually not as simple as being afraid of heights.Â They pervade our entire perception.Â The humor in this is that rarely does someone proclaim overcoming fear except when they are motivated by fear.Â &#8221;I&#8217;m afraid of fear, so I&#8217;ll make war on it!&#8221; might be that reasoning brought to light!<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Bringing up the concept of fear is of course intentional, because it is central to black and white thinking.Â There&#8217;s always a core of it in that thought process.Â Within the desire to go to extremes, there is a universe avoided in the remaining spectrum of life, which clearly has infinitely more colors than just two.Â Even in the spectrum of gray there can be a swirling of colors, so to speak, and a great beauty.Â There&#8217;s little beauty in a black and white world; it&#8217;s a harsh world of enemies and allies in a constant battle.<o:p></o:p></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">Everyone is affected by fear.Â I too am affected by it on a daily basis.Â And yet, by allowing myself to experience fears, without refusing them or trying to get them to end, I&#8217;m finding more and more there&#8217;s a perfect completeness in that.Â Fear helps me.Â It&#8217;s meant to bring awareness to threats, to pains, to issues needed to be resolved, and that&#8217;s what it does if it&#8217;s allowed to.Â It&#8217;s not necessarily pleasant, but there is a great feeling of aliveness when I fully invite and surrender to it.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">There is no one on Earth that has no lessons to learn, that never makes mistakes.Â There is also no one who makes nothing but mistakes.Â (Yes, that includes George Bush!)Â We each have a limited perception, and acknowledging that is loving, because it allows the full totality of someone, warts and all.Â It&#8217;s wise to be aware of potentials, for there&#8217;s always room for growths, but focusing entirely on them and not being present (and thus allowing) with the here and now is a form of cutoff and division.Â <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Though I rarely make reference to the Bible, one section I like (and usually find in a different interpretation than my own) is the part on Adam and Eve eating of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.Â Most people overlook that description of the tree &#8211; the awareness of good and evil.Â To me, that simply speaks that it is the splitting of our perception into &#8220;Good&#8221; and &#8220;Bad&#8221;, &#8220;Black&#8221; and &#8220;White&#8221; that takes us away from &#8220;<st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Eden</st1:place></st1:city>&#8220;.Â Letting go of judgments and filters, and simply allowing whatever occurs without labels instantly brings us back to that state of primordial innocence. <o:p></o:p></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="blogContent"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">For this blog I&#8217;ll write about anger.  It&#8217;s a greatly misunderstood emotion in our culture.  It&#8217;s both decried and cultivated at the same time.  There are enormous mixed messages we get on a daily basis, and because of this, many people have walled away any possibility of this emotion being shown.  To an extreme, there might even be a message that it&#8217;s best to always step back and &#8220;see the perfection of the other&#8221; &#8211; which involves walling away anything critical &#8211; rather than show any anger.<br />
</span></font><font size="3"><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">Now, let&#8217;s look at anger directly.  I hope you can pause here to look at it with me; we all have it inside ourselves.  Think of someone or something that simply pisses you off.  Please sit with it a while; listen to it.  This isn&#8217;t about a venting process, which is what happens when the easiest words are found.  Listening is a deep, meditative process that doesn&#8217;t wish anything to go away or be fixed.  Pay attention to what it really wants to say.  Listen to it equally if it&#8217;s to someone else or to yourself.</span></font></p>
<p style="text-align: center"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif"><font size="2"><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif">(I hope you take a few moments to breathe deeply and listen to yourself here)</span></font></span></font><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif"></span></font></p>
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<p><font size="3"><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">When I hear anger, it&#8217;s a voice with power that says &#8220;Something isn&#8217;t working here. Please listen!&#8221;.   That&#8217;s all.  No violence at all.  What isn&#8217;t healthy about that &#8211; speaking out when something doesn&#8217;t work?</span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">What most people confuse with anger is <span style="font-style: italic">projection</span>.  Projection naturally happens when there&#8217;s a total non-acceptance of a real process going on within.  It says &#8220;this is not mine!  It must be yours.&#8221;  And thus a violence caused by the rupture that <span style="font-style: italic">begins totally with Self.</span>  Thus, if something isn&#8217;t working internally and there&#8217;s denial that it IS within, there is a constant push externally that is the anger turned into projection.  Of course, in this case, there is nothing the outside world can do to change the internal world of the person, so &#8220;help&#8221; turns two ways:  either to encourage listening and care of Self, or to encourage numbness so the inner turmoil isn&#8217;t felt.   Many &#8220;safe&#8221; atmospheres encourage the numbness by creating a whitewashed atmosphere where all possible triggers are removed. </span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">To look at healthy anger, a good example is Gandhi.  Gandhi made it very clear the behavior of the British in India wasn&#8217;t working; it caused tremendous suffering, he did everything in his power to encourage people to listen and see it clearly.  He focused solely on the behavior of the British, not the British themselves, who were generally wonderful people.  He did not make them wrong (i.e., use projection), but focused on behavior that was changeable &#8211; and so documented the systematic methods of poverty and oppression that occurred in those colonial times.  People wouldn&#8217;t think it was anger, because there was no rage or violence at all.  He moved from a place of power that no one could take away, and part of that was his non-violence.  But the root energy was anger &#8211; simply in a very evolved form.  It was again, &#8220;This isn&#8217;t working &#8211; Please listen!&#8221;.   This goes back to earlier posts expressing there are no &#8220;bad&#8221; emotions.  Any emotion can be transformed to a place where it services mankind.  Without exception.</span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">An example closer to home might be a mother watching over a child.  If the child places itself in danger, the natural response tends to be anger.  In a mother with no shame of their anger, this comes out as a clear &#8220;get back!  I care about you!&#8221;  I&#8217;ve been lucky enough to see people without any shame of their anger, and the response children have to this is lovely.  They will tend to smile, because the anger clearly comes out of Love.  However, if there&#8217;s significant guilt and pain surrounding anger, all of this inner division comes out in the communication.  The result is that it feels awful, because with the disharmony expressed in that shout, the love in the communication doesn&#8217;t shine through.  The crux is that the problem is with the disunity, <span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold">not the anger</span>.</span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">One of the false images people have of anger is that it&#8217;s a way to attack the other person.  However, if you&#8217;ve ever seen someone &#8220;let it all out&#8221;, without defenses, it is an <span style="font-style: italic">incredibly </span>vulnerable state.  We tend to go through life guarding against others knowing what we care about.  Showing anger without guile or protection puts it all out on the table. You are making what you passionately care in plain view all to see and touch.  People subconsciously protect against this because of the possibility the other person will use that vulnerability to attack.  This is of course, very valid; it happens fairly regularly.  Those who wish to use this vulnerability to attack may bait others, waiting for others to let loose so they can then give a &#8220;sucker punch&#8221; of a sort.  This doesn&#8217;t take anything away from those who reach this kind of vulnerability; it takes great courage to be fully open this way.  Most people get angry half-heartedly.  They let the other person know they are angry, but they don&#8217;t get to vulnerability.  Others tend to feel this lack of vulnerability and react defensively.  Many activists are in this state. </span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">When it comes down to it, anger deserves a deep and profound listening, like everything else. It is often a healthy desire for boundaries.  Sometimes it is the simple message that something isn&#8217;t working, and thus can be a &#8220;cover up emotion&#8221;, pointing to a geyser of other emotions that are crying out to be released.  But the anger itself is not a problem. It is something that needs to be given a loving space of listening, not &#8220;fixed&#8221;.  There is nothing that needs to be done with it, other than listening.  Allowing it transforms it, and lets everyone involved see what truly wasn&#8217;t working.  This is a gift to the world.</span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /></font></p>
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<p><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif"> </span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif">Now, the events of the last few weeks as described in the last blog for me brought up a lot of anger.  Quite frankly, I love my anger.   And because of that, no one would ever describe me as an &#8220;angry person&#8221;.   I love that I speak up when something doesn&#8217;t work.  I love that I do my best to do it from a vulnerable space.  Sometimes I fall flat on my face, but that&#8217;s what learning&#8217;s about.  Look what happened in the previous blog &#8211; there are great benefits to getting to a place where support is needed!</span><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /><br style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif" /></font></p>
<p align="center"><font style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif" size="3">Be whole.</font></p>
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