What is healing, exactly?
Posted by matthew on January 13, 2008
Much of my exploration of love and spirituality has come directly from my own healing journey. I, like seemingly everyone, have had wounds from childhood that influence me seemingly all the time. In addition, I’ve had many physical maladies manifesting something going wrong internally. Right now I’m in a state of being unable to work or be active physically, because I get disoriented for hours if I do anything. Including getting groceries and household cleaning. Rather than getting disheartened, I’m using this for the gift that it is to do some inner household cleaning.
To honor this, I thought I’d share some channeling surrounding what healing actually is. Any similarities to actual persons in the examples are 100% not an accident. Nothing is!
On to the channeling…
Questions: What exactly is healing? How does one “do it”? It seems like a lot of times we think of healing as “getting over it”.
When we use the word ‘heal’ or ‘healing’, we are talking about allowing something to revert or assume its natural state. Most of you go through your lives with some part of you either physically or emotionally in a other than natural state. This creates conflicts and imbalances which allow you further opportunity for learning and growth. Healing, then, allows those parts of you to revert to their ‘normal’ state: A state of rest, a state without conflict, a state of peace.
Let us suppose there is a man who has some issues surrounding touch. They come for a variety of reasons, and mostly relate to his feelings that others have had a lack of regard, a lack of acknowledgment for who he is. This lack of regard or acknowledgment manifested in various ways, depending on for whom it came, but this has been a pattern in his life and has created a sense of internal conflict for him. On the one hand he feels he should accept touch, but a part of him wants to say ‘f*ck you’ (actual channeled words!) to himself and to all those others. So, how to heal this? What has he done to heal it? What will allow this situation to revert to it’s ‘natural’ state?
A lot of this depends, of course, on choice. There are myriad possibilities for what this natural state could be. There is no one right answer. In the case of healing of physical malady, a burn on the skin, then one would expect the cells of that part of the body to end up looking like, feeling like, and acting like the ones that were there before the injury. Well, what if the choice is to hold a memory of the injury as a reminder for something. In that case, the body could create scar tissue that would serve as a reminder. It would feel different and it would look different. Who decides which one is the natural state?
So let’s go back to the man.? As we see it, he has many possibilities open to him, and any one of them could be (if he wanted them to be)? his new natural state. It’s a matter of perception. And he could change his mind about it at any time and choose something else. The only real choice then, is choosing whether to experience this as conflict or choosing to create a different perception.
Question (follow up): So what would be a different perception of this conflict described above?
Why must he choose one or the other of acceptance and ‘f*ck you’? Why should they be mutually exclusive? Why can’t he have both? Again, it’s simply a matter of perception. The perception that one or the other is wrong is simply a perception he has decided to accept. The perception likely came from social or cultural or familial sources, but he is in a position to choose to accept or not to accept any of those perceptions that he has adopted in the past. The trick, then, is in figuring out what he wants and using that as his perception. What he wants. We don’t say that is an easy process, for often what you want is covered over by what you think others want. And allowing yourself the freedom to identify what you want is often difficult.
Although to some people channeling can seem a little ‘cold’, being present with the energy is one of the warmest, loving experiences I know. It’s also detached. This may seem contradictory, but to me goes hand in hand with the entities involved loving us so much they would never interfere with our choices and learning. There’s also a sense they give us that they don’t see any ‘problems’ with us, even pain. It’s their perception of perfection in all my experiences and my past that greatly aids me on my journey.
Too add to the last paragraph, I notice when I’m being asked “what do you want?”, there’s really no “you” in that statement. Look into the eyes of the next person asking you that. It’s more like “what desire is there?”? This is a real symptom of a consumerist culture – there’s little curiosity on who the person is we interact with, even our selves. Imagine the confusion of a teenage boy when being asked this regarding his future career. Knowing what you want goes hand in hand with knowing who you are, which is the spiritual journey in a nutshell. Acknowledging the magnitude of this question brings a great deal of self-honesty and reflection, resulting in a sifting through what we’ve been told we want from the inner radiant desires from within. We all can grow out of what we’ve been programmed to be and inhabit the magnitude of what we are.
I hope it’s helped you as well!
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Healing can be very painful in and of itself, but every time a chunk of pain is released, it feels extremely liberating.
I’m realizing just now that I have much more to heal than I ever thought. This post certainly hit a nerve.
Thank you. I’m on a very healing journey myself. Not just about releasing pain, but about seeing who I am. A lot of healing seems to be about seeing yourself for who you are, for the first time. So much of who I thought I was came from other’s viewpoints and interactions with me.
Transformation can often be painful, as there is that discord when a new way of living is there in sight but you’re still on the old train. But it isn’t a rule.
Thanks again!
… at times, one and only response becomes the renewed glance at the common things that suddenly cease to be the boredom reality and start serve us like some kind of medicine. Thank you!
Hi!
I subscribed to your posts and put the “loving awareness” on my blogroll on “Collourrain†blog. I hope my readers will come to you too.
Meanwhile I heartily welcome you to visit my pictures. I hope you will enjoy my colors and have a good time.
I would feel myself honored if my link to you could find the reciprocal link to one of my blogs.
I will greatly appreciate too your feedback on my works.
Thank you for this article. There are so many aspects of healing in this articles that are so well put, so simply explained. I’m giving this article an honorable mention in the carnival today.
Thank you for being a medium and taking the time to share this with all of us.
Astrid Lee
http://www.TherapeuticReiki.com – distant healing
Host Carnival of Healing #120
blessings and health to you, Matthew…
CG
You too CG! I love your writings as well!
What is healing, exactly?
at a moment, in a concrete case, the healing was my coming to your site.
Thank you.I feel myself much netter now – I could even to joke and thus break a code of the life riddle – please, have a look at my blog “Colourrain” Just click on a link http://colourrain.blogspot.com/
I will greatly appreciate your feedback. Your comments will be of great help as to me as to all readers of the Colourrain.
Thank you.
Thank you Matthew for writing this. So much of my healing has been as you said, about finding out who I am. It hasn’t been easy but the rewards are definitely worth it. I am so glad that I found your blog.
I’m continually learning about healing. We all are. I think the moment we think there’s nothing left to heal, that’s the moment we start to atrophy. There’s always more to discover about who we are.
Finding out who we really are!
We may think we are what other people think we are, or get an idea from the feedback we get or imagine we get.
In my case, finding out who I really am meant undoing what I was made to be. When parents have an image of what their children should be in terms of how they should behave, how they should interact, how they should worship, oh so many ‘shoulds’ based on their own understanding of how life should be, then those children grow up not knowing who they are, but act out of who they were made to be.
In my case, I have had to undo ALL those expectations of who I should be, to find out who I AM. Even after my parents were no more around physically, all those ‘shoulds’ were/are still there, in my personal life, in my married life, in my professional life, in my spiritual life.
Society is ‘shoulding’ us all the time. Learning to ignore all those messages, and finding one’s own inner comfort and then peace is indeed a journey to wholeness and authenticity….and so well worth every step.
Peace to you all out there!
Mary
It feels like this comment ‘should’ have been for the ‘should article!
As I wrote, I’m learning about all these ‘shoulds’. Being aware of them is usually necessary (not always) to letting them go. It helps. Really it’s about allowing it all to dissipate rather than ‘work’, or at least so I’m learning!
Hi,
“knowing who you are” -> that’s needed for life.
Thank you for the article – for your attitude towards the life and ourselves. It touches my heart and captivates me indeed.
Wow, What is healing, exactly?
That’s the perfect question. It holds the conscious comprehension of “who are we?” in itself -it means that one who question that (the patient who addresses a doctor) knows as what it means to be healthy, so what don’t allow experience the life in full to him.
Thus we may claim that one who questions what is the healing is the healthy one- the example to many.
Your article inspires lots of thoughts related to whole our being here and now. Each word reveals the immeasurable space for thought. You say “being present with the energy is one of the warmest, loving experiences I know” That’s so indeed.
While being present with the Spirit in us, we are alive indeed and feel ourselves in oneness with all who ever lived on earth and are alive at a moment. The kind of relationships we have between testifies the state of our health.